I don't like reading usually, but I read this without getting bored. Mostly because it was straight forward, and did not have filler sentences. The idea of narcissism being both self love and self hate was pretty smart! And it's also rare to see someone blaming themselves honestly.
As I mentioned before, your writing is pretty sophisticated. It does not have clutters of filler sentences. I find it easy to read. And I am one of the humans that hates reading anything. But your writing is neat for me. I would read that Murakami style story you have written if it's short lol. But yeah this looked like an internal monologue kind of written piece. Obviously you talked to the audience, but the bits where you actually went into the topic, it sounded like an internal monologue. And I love them.
About the topic, it's explained really nicely. Way better than I ever could. I myself am a narcissistic person that probably falls in a different radar. But it was a really good post! Thanks for writing it!
I can relate to this so much. I was just thinking/reading about it recently. It's the ultra paradox and a double bind that is difficult to get out of. It's like being stuck in a hole that you can't stop digging. Thanks for sharing.
You've described it soo PERFECTLY: "It's like being stuck in a hole that you can't stop digging". I just know, as long as I can pause for a moment, think, slap my dumbass, and continue to find my way back out, I'll be alright.
Well, where do i even start? Okay, so let's start with a little life (have you completed it?? I'm still waiting!!)
I so damn agree with you on this line, "self-haters, just like narcissists, are one of the most self-indulgent breeds of people, with a highly inflated sense of self-importance"
But you see, I have to add to it too! Like the self-haters are doing it for themselves but make it a negative way, which is basically aggravating something that is buried deep within. It needs to be taken out and talked with like a child and maybe still you won't feel the comfort, like our Judy till you won't have that right person to start accepting yourself even in bits and pieces.
It would also end to one thing in the end though, you effort, your nature of acceptance and you will to love yourself. I had a very difficult time to come to self-love, still quite far away yet not too far :')
I hope you'll explore more of you, the depths within you that caused all hate to spur up, and it would be heavy when it comes on surface, at that moment feel free to reach out to me or literally anyone!!
Sending love and BIG HUGS your way! <33
Ps- I can't way to read Sputnik sweetheart by Murakami, I'm currently reading his AFTER DARK, and oh boy, I absolutely love it!! It has a unique pov, give it a shot!
(Nooo, in fact, I kept it away due to overwhelm for a while and now I forgot where I left off so I'm re-reading a few of the starting bits again.)
Fr fr, I agree with you. That's the reason why we reach out to people (friends, family, partners) or seek therapy.
I'm embarking on the self-love journey too, and yes, I've got a long way to go too, but as long as I keep walking, I'll be alright. Thanks for being willing to lend a ear, reach out to me if you ever wanna talk too. <3
Massive hugs right back! ^w^
Bruh imma hop on Amazon and buy it right away now, I'm a sucker for Murakami novels.
Girl I relate so much to this! That victim mindset is vicious, isn't it? I remember staying there for years... constantly blaming others for where I was (or not).
I'm so so proud of you for putting this out there Arya! It truly has to take a lot of guts!
And yes, it's your newsletter...you're free to write anything!❤️ We're here to read it!
Girl I relate so much to this! That victim mindset is vicious, isn't it? I remember staying there for years... constantly blaming others for where I was (or not).
I'm so so proud of you for putting this out there Arya! It truly has to take a lot of guts!
And yes, it's your newsletter...you're free to write anything!❤️ We're here to read it!
Beautiful Read... i always believe in having a space where you let it flow without apprehension without giving a damn to the world and this is your that place and writing should not be obstructive - its a beautiful medium to let your thoughts unravel and turn in to words... Keep it ON. More power to you...
“Writing should not be obstructive - it’s a beautiful medium to let your thoughts unravel and turn them into words”. What a brilliant fucking thought 👏🏻, imma hold on to this and save it somewhere so I can break free from chaining my words.
Arya, this is such a powerful writing and kudos to you for sharing that’s way too personal. I can relate to it so much, I have been in that space post giving birth to my son. And I can tell you only I could help myself, of-course talking, reading and knowing I am not alone contributed to the healing. More power to you girl ✨ And ITS OKAY NOT TO BE OKAY… and things will only get better from here… take care
Thank you so much for taking the time to share this, it means the world, and it was very reassuring to hear, I needed it. ❤️ Much love and all the power to you too. 🌈
I don't like reading usually, but I read this without getting bored. Mostly because it was straight forward, and did not have filler sentences. The idea of narcissism being both self love and self hate was pretty smart! And it's also rare to see someone blaming themselves honestly.
As I mentioned before, your writing is pretty sophisticated. It does not have clutters of filler sentences. I find it easy to read. And I am one of the humans that hates reading anything. But your writing is neat for me. I would read that Murakami style story you have written if it's short lol. But yeah this looked like an internal monologue kind of written piece. Obviously you talked to the audience, but the bits where you actually went into the topic, it sounded like an internal monologue. And I love them.
About the topic, it's explained really nicely. Way better than I ever could. I myself am a narcissistic person that probably falls in a different radar. But it was a really good post! Thanks for writing it!
Shit you took the time to write all that? Thank you so damn much, Anshul. It makes me so happy.
Haha yeah, it’s not an original idea as such, but I’ve read similar things in many different works and this is just how I understood it.
Yes! It kinda was, come to think of it. It was also very random lol. But I’m glad you thought it was worth the read.
Oh, you gotta write about that someday. I’d love to know your thoughts and experiences on this too.
I can relate to this so much. I was just thinking/reading about it recently. It's the ultra paradox and a double bind that is difficult to get out of. It's like being stuck in a hole that you can't stop digging. Thanks for sharing.
You've described it soo PERFECTLY: "It's like being stuck in a hole that you can't stop digging". I just know, as long as I can pause for a moment, think, slap my dumbass, and continue to find my way back out, I'll be alright.
Well, where do i even start? Okay, so let's start with a little life (have you completed it?? I'm still waiting!!)
I so damn agree with you on this line, "self-haters, just like narcissists, are one of the most self-indulgent breeds of people, with a highly inflated sense of self-importance"
But you see, I have to add to it too! Like the self-haters are doing it for themselves but make it a negative way, which is basically aggravating something that is buried deep within. It needs to be taken out and talked with like a child and maybe still you won't feel the comfort, like our Judy till you won't have that right person to start accepting yourself even in bits and pieces.
It would also end to one thing in the end though, you effort, your nature of acceptance and you will to love yourself. I had a very difficult time to come to self-love, still quite far away yet not too far :')
I hope you'll explore more of you, the depths within you that caused all hate to spur up, and it would be heavy when it comes on surface, at that moment feel free to reach out to me or literally anyone!!
Sending love and BIG HUGS your way! <33
Ps- I can't way to read Sputnik sweetheart by Murakami, I'm currently reading his AFTER DARK, and oh boy, I absolutely love it!! It has a unique pov, give it a shot!
(Nooo, in fact, I kept it away due to overwhelm for a while and now I forgot where I left off so I'm re-reading a few of the starting bits again.)
Fr fr, I agree with you. That's the reason why we reach out to people (friends, family, partners) or seek therapy.
I'm embarking on the self-love journey too, and yes, I've got a long way to go too, but as long as I keep walking, I'll be alright. Thanks for being willing to lend a ear, reach out to me if you ever wanna talk too. <3
Massive hugs right back! ^w^
Bruh imma hop on Amazon and buy it right away now, I'm a sucker for Murakami novels.
Yes! It's your newsletter! Thank you for sharing this! It means a lot!
Exactly! And the pleasure was really mine. 🤍
Girl I relate so much to this! That victim mindset is vicious, isn't it? I remember staying there for years... constantly blaming others for where I was (or not).
I'm so so proud of you for putting this out there Arya! It truly has to take a lot of guts!
And yes, it's your newsletter...you're free to write anything!❤️ We're here to read it!
Girl I relate so much to this! That victim mindset is vicious, isn't it? I remember staying there for years... constantly blaming others for where I was (or not).
I'm so so proud of you for putting this out there Arya! It truly has to take a lot of guts!
And yes, it's your newsletter...you're free to write anything!❤️ We're here to read it!
The only thing that helps you break away is to remind yourself: “it’s all in the mind, it’s only a mindset thing, BREAK FREE AND RUN WILD”.
Means a lot coming from you. ❤️
Hehe, much love. X
Beautiful Read... i always believe in having a space where you let it flow without apprehension without giving a damn to the world and this is your that place and writing should not be obstructive - its a beautiful medium to let your thoughts unravel and turn in to words... Keep it ON. More power to you...
“Writing should not be obstructive - it’s a beautiful medium to let your thoughts unravel and turn them into words”. What a brilliant fucking thought 👏🏻, imma hold on to this and save it somewhere so I can break free from chaining my words.
Arya, this is such a powerful writing and kudos to you for sharing that’s way too personal. I can relate to it so much, I have been in that space post giving birth to my son. And I can tell you only I could help myself, of-course talking, reading and knowing I am not alone contributed to the healing. More power to you girl ✨ And ITS OKAY NOT TO BE OKAY… and things will only get better from here… take care
Thank you so much for taking the time to share this, it means the world, and it was very reassuring to hear, I needed it. ❤️ Much love and all the power to you too. 🌈